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For women academics, the gendered university places expectations not experienced by their male colleagues. In particular, scholarly literature includes many instances of expectations that female scholars, particularly those in management roles, will take on a motherly role within the academy. These occur even in female-dominated professions such as social work. This paper identifies four groups within the university who expect women academics to adopt a mothering role: students, staff and colleagues, senior management, and in some instances women themselves.

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The Stone is a forum for contemporary philosophers and other thinkers on issues both timely and timeless. The problem is that my students lack the cultural scripts to know how to deal with our teacher-student relationship.

Whatever one thinks of Freud, we can all recognize some truth to this insight. Sure, some of those students might have genuinely lusted after their teachers, but Plato explains that the role of this lust was to set a student on the path to learning transcendental lessons — moving from a concrete appreciation of beautiful bodies to an ever more abstract appreciation of beautiful souls, beautiful laws and customs, then culminating in an appreciation of the form of beauty itself.

The sex has for the most part dropped out for us now, but a mentoring relationship between older and younger men remains one of the most accepted and effective ways of transmitting knowledge and power in a patriarchal society such as ours. They think most people want to avoid the anxiety of taking existential responsibility for their lives, preferring instead to find a way to have someone else make their decisions for them.

Consider women who take on a whole new set of hobbies and interests every time they start dating a new man. Lest you think this is a thing of the past, my students assure me that they still see it all the time among their friends. An apt metaphor for all this, de Beauvoir says, is found in the fairy tale of the little mermaid, who gave up her fishtail and had her tongue cut out for the chance to be loved by a human man, only to find herself turned into sea foam after he spurned her. Many a female student has been turned into sea foam.

They lust after their professors and are, too often, greeted with open arms, but the ensuing erotic relationship, unlike the pederastic one, does little to help women realize any higher intellectual lesson. Instead, the beloved is frequently stuck — or more accurately, objectified — valued only on the basis of her physical appearance or sexual appeal. Of course, not all male professors exploit the intimacy of the pedagogical relationship by permitting it to turn sexual.

But there are plenty of advantages to reap even for those who stay on the right side of the line. In our culture, men are the keepers of the intellectual flame and can bestow it as they see fit. Female professors have no such personae available to them.

As female professors age, the typecasting changes: We move with depressing predictability from the role of girlfriend to the role of mother. But there are even fewer cultural scripts on which to model the pedagogical relationship between female professors and their female students.

Some of my female students are able to recognize the need for and benefits of finding a female mentor, but surprisingly few of them actually do. One explanation for this comes from feminist philosophers as old as John Stuart Mill and de Beauvoir, who argue that solidarity is particularly hard for women because they often have more in common with the men in their lives than with women across race, class or age boundaries. Another explanation comes from contemporary feminist philosophers like Sandra Bartky, who describes the phenomenon of internalized oppression.

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Bartky argues that self-loathing is an inevitable result of living in a culture saturated with messages about the inferior status and value of people like you. Mermaids would rather cut out their tongues than spend a life stuck with other mermaids.

The archetypal professor is decidedly male — rumpled tweed jacket, argyle socks, bushy beard, pipe — and even if it were an option not much in this aesthetic is terribly appealing to a cisgender woman like me. But most of the time it just feels like a desert. Feminists have been telling us for a very long time that women in positions of authority find themselves stuck between a rock and a hard place. So, for example, taking male colleagues to task for abusing their power for sexual gain is one of the best ways to alienate a reader. This work is essentially invisible and uncompensated.

Alice MacLachlan, an associate professor at York University, tells a story about joking with a male Girlfriend mother professor about how she always knew midterms were over because she had to bring out her backup box of tissues.

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He looked at her blankly, and it was only then that she realized none of her male colleagues had to replace their tissues at least once a semester after crying students had used them up. We lack the cultural narratives to make sense of women in positions of social power or authority. It always has.

The trick, as educators, is to start figuring out how to teach our students without losing them in the sea foam, so they can grow up to look for, or to be, something other than girlfriends and mothers. See next articles. Is it still true?