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You want to be clear what are hard limits and what are soft limits. For example, for me right now, vaginal rape is a hard limit.

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Using checklists to figure out your kinky limits

For the noobs: a scene is a sectioned off period of time when you engage in BDSM activities. Back to limits.

You are open to trying it someday and exploring it. So to clarify, in a typical BDSM relationship, a large part of it is trying new things, exploring boundaries and the levels of intensity that the involved parties can take. Soft limits are ok to explore, in moderation. If either party is inexperienced, particularly if both are, limits should be pushed in small increments.

If both are or one are inexperienced, its best for the involved parties to discuss what limits they are going to explore prior to a scene in what we call a peer to peer negotiation. For the noobs: peer to peer negotiation means that all parties sit down and discuss what is going to happen and what they are ok with and not ok with.

Take special note on the peer to peer part. This means no one talks down to anyone, no one says Sir or Master or avoids eye contact.

All parties are equal. This is something only recommended for those who have been with a partner for an extended period of time and have established copious amounts of trust. BDSM should be safe, sane, and consensual, and communication is key.

Here is a list of my limits as a sub for example.

My hard limits are things that are completely off limits. My soft limits are things that I mostly want to explore but have never done before. Preferences change, somethings may move from a hard to soft limit, or from a soft to hard or from soft to green light play.

For the noobs: Green light play is exactly what it sounds like, good stuff you enjoy and want to do. Its a reference to the common color safeword system.

Red for stop immediatelyyellow for hey can we talk about thisand green for t his is great keep going! I do not find being naked or bound demeaning or insulting. But I do find name calling to be damaging to me.

Communication is key in any BDSM relationship, and not just for new pairings of doms and subs or newbies, but for the experienced too. Hard and soft limits are staples in any BDSM relationship or scene.

So talk, make lists, ponder, and discuss. Share this: Twitter Facebook.

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